Sexy Bride Look Is Out

Thank God! Hated it. Absolutely hated it when women with good sense of style and great bodies decided to opt of way too revealing gowns for their wedding ceremonies. We have Halloween for that! Or wedding night!

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On TLC’s “Say Yes to the Dress” half the brides come looking for Pnina Torrei at Kleinfeld. Beading, corsets, lace, bustiers, cutouts to the tune of $4000 – $12,000 per dress. I hate to be the dad walking a daughter down the isle looking like she could drop the skirt and be ready for Playboy Mansion. Again, great detail and very pretty but so not for the wedding. I mean, do the groomsmen and Uncle Bob need to know exactly what the groom will be getting later on in the night? I think NOT!!!!!

Photos from brides.com, pinterest

So when NYT Style section featured this article on the cover of Sunday Style, I breathed a sigh of relief. Gorgeous. Just beyond beyond gorgeous. Here are a few of pics from 2017 spring runways: beautiful, elegant, feminine. Bridal.

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Improvement, non? Don’t think I could talk Gary into vow renewal but would love to wear any of these dresses.

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Are We Mean Mommies?

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Yesterday I came across an article discussing the mean mommie phenomena which was really interesting. The article was driven by a recent reaction to poor Hillary Duff having posted a picture of her kissing her 4 year old son on his lips at Disney world. Apparently it’s child abuse in the eyes of many, like 8000 comments within a day. I have sleep issues, so I always wonder who the efff has time and energy to care about these things let alone comment? Its none of your business and I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong in kissing your child on the lips.

The article is called Bully Moms and it makes a few interesting points:

  • our own anxieties are driving our criticism, basically if you put someone down you in comparison look better. all these decision to be made that DEFINE us and also DIVIDE us
  • living away from extended family, less help, smaller support system and fewer people to ask advice from
  • social media and internet in general: these perfect Pinterest moms and Instagrammable moments; so much information that instead of helping it confuses more and all these trolls with access to the keyboard and plenty of criticism

Motherhood can be incredibly isolating and you pretty much never get to feel like you got this. Kids are always growing and changing, there’s always a stage and no one kid is the same. The stress of suburban life and motherhood seems to bring out the worst insecurities and bring about emotional regress like no other. Mom-shaming and female rivalry is nothing new of course but it does seem to reach new lows. I spoke at a party with a male therapist who practices in Fairfield County and he said that majority of his clients are actually women who are having problems with mom-bullies. Quick search on internet paints a really horrifying picture: moms who have been completely ostracized and excluded from street cook outs, kid birthday parties, book clubs. Some have moved to a different street or town or state because it got that bad. It’s crazy.

It’s hard not to be influenced by that in our quest to the best mom you can be: to make sure our children our well rounded, athletic, artistic, well dressed and behaved, eating the healthiest organic food we can get, etc. While many bloggers advocate essentially not talking to other moms at schools and extracurricular events, I wouldn’t. Yes, there are some mean moms out there. But there are also incredibly terrific moms out there who might be very reserved and seem stand offish even but it might be because they have been burned once or twice. I think in life you have to put yourself out there, keep your wits about you and go with your gut. I have met plenty of mean moms but I’ve also met some of my dearest friends through my kids and they mean the world to me. My recommendation is this and feel free to apply this to pretty much any situation: basically, don’t be an ass and always say hello.

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Mother’s Day Gift Ideas

Mother's Day Gift Ideas

 

1. Love this leopard coat! Classic. You’ll wear it and your daughters will probably too.
2. Pink cocktail coupes. I’ve looked forever for something that’s a right size. My hubs likes proper cocktails so these would do well!
3. Any mom would love any bath products. These are organic and come in a variety.
4. Mother-daughter necklaces, these are adorable.
5. Horsebit bracelet – another classic.
6. Cute flats for running around, these are actually by Ellen DeGeneres and spell love out in the front of the shoe.
7. Free People La Brea sweater comes in tons of colors and is super comfortable. Great throw on!
8. And roses. Lots and lots of roses.
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Did you know how good your body is?

I apologize for not posting for awhile, work has been busy with several new clients. There are times when I love my job, I do. I love watching women transform from nothing-fits-me, my-mom-always-said-I-look-bad-in-skirts, I-am-not-that-attractive, I-am-too-fat to kind of getting closer to the mirror, twirling a bit and suppressing a smile because they know they look good. I love getting the emails after an event telling me how  beautiful they looked and how many compliments they got. How their husbands couldn’t keep their hands off of them. How their kids were surprised to see mommy in something other than Lululemon. The confidence, the joy in being a woman, the fun – I love all that. That’s the reason I do what I do.

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Top: J Crew sweater (similar here), 7 For All Mankind skinny jeans (similar here), and New Balance for J Crew sneakers

Well, not these last 2 weeks. These weeks have sucked. Client nr 1 is very pretty with a firecracker personality. She is also petite and athletic with a muscular built. It was a nightmare to go shopping with her! I obviously know that petites are completely overlooked in fashion. The petites section at Nordstrom makes me want to cry. I was actually accosted by a 4 petite women asking me WHERE are they supposed to go to shop for decent clothes. UGH. SO many petite women and so many crappy options. We had such a hard time with client nr 1, I am still looking online that tops that work.

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Client nr 2 (thank you, Momus, goddess of Irony) was 5’11, skinny with a pear shape. We found sweaters and dresses (Calvin Klein) but just failedfailedfailed at jackets and pants. There’s no tall women section. There’s plus size and actually had pretty cute options. But by God if you are short or tall, you are screwed. Many many hours of desperately looking for clothes, just clothes that fit!

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I have never really thought, OMG, what an amazing body I have. Sure, there are times I think I look great, really great even. Not every day though. But having done this marathon shopping trips with clients 1&2, it dawned on me how easy my life is. Sure I need to tailor clothes here and there. But by and large I get to go to any store and buy clothes based on whether they look cute on me or not. And I never realized how unusual that is. Did you know how good your body is??? So I beg you, put aside all these preconceived notions of how fat/skinny/bad you look and just go wear whatever the heck makes you happy. Because before you know it, you’ll be 70 and you WILL look back at your current self and think DAMN I looked good, why didn’t I know it?

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Easter decorations

I didn’t get to as much as I wanted to but the house looks pretty festive. I ran around this morning snapping quick photos as this post is so overdue, I am a bad blogger. And I haven’t gotten my glue gun out to finish off some outdoor decor. Sigh, sometimes there’s just not enough coffee in a day. Anyhuuu, excuse the poor photo quality.

Our front decorations are from Christmas Tree Shop. Love these bunny ears.

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I made Easter trees buy buying some foam cones and hot gluing a sheet of moss and then bunch of eggs all over it! Buy 5 x as many eggs as you think you’ll need, I had to do several “emergency” trips to Michaels. There’s a barely visible Happy Easter garland underneath the mantel.

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For the living room mantel I spread some green “grass” and topped it off with some random eggs I had and bought some large eggs to hang from the Two Wheat Candle Sconces. Pink rabbit concluded this display.

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Dining room: I bought some pussy willow sprays from Michaels and arranged them around the chandelier arms and hung some more eggs.

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Breakfast area: Melanie’s discarded butterfly decor found some use on windows.

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Kitchen: how cute are those bunny tails? Love. Wondered around at Michaels and finally found these large pom-poms.

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Trader Joe’s does a gingerbread house for pretty much every holiday. Kids loved it and royally messed up the counters with icing but it was good fun!

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Happy Easter y’all! Just have fun with decor, kids will appreciate it. I think.

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Cold Shoulder trend

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Hop to it! Easter is coming!

I love all holidays (well, I skip decorating for some of them) but Easter seems really special after this miserable winter that brought along so many colds and flus and stomach viruses. I am so ready for spring.

I admire Jennifer at Turtle Creek Lane who decorates for pretty much every holiday and goes all in every time. Like all all all in. I am sure she has a staff and a huge storage facility because all these things need to be stored somewhere when the holiday is over. She went with Peter the Rabbit theme and actually had a mural made for the backdrop. You can head over to her blog to read about it and see what she did with the rest of the house!

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But practicality aside, I love the detail, the joy and the whimsy and, gosh, can you just imagine how fun this would be for kids. Hubs announced that hell, no, there’s no way you are doing this here but little does he realize that all of this will slowly creep in. And he did find the bunny tails on counter chairs amusing. 🙂

I think holidays should feel special and have some continuity year after year whether in recipes or decor or traditions, so that whenever life gets difficult and something unfortunate or sad happens, you and your loved ones can take comfort in the holidays and your family traditions, bond over old memories and make new ones. That sense of belonging will make you realize what truly matters in this life – our family and our friends. And holidays are a wonderful time to experience that.

Our Easter traditions are pretty similar to most, we always have a big breakfast in the morning in the living room while girls check (read: tear open) their easter baskets. Of course, we will dye some eggs.

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We’ll have Easter dinner with friends and family, which is preceded by the easter egg hunt for little ones in our back yard. Girls have their own monogrammed Easter baskets from Pottery Barn and you can read about Easter outfits here. There’s always ham, potato galette, roasted carrots and asparagus, some green salad and a prosecco based Italian cocktail called Sgroppino. There’s always laughter, too much candy for the kids and some delicious treat for the adults as well. Let me know what your Easter traditions are!

12 of the Most Interesting Easter Traditions from Around the World

10 ADORABLE EASTER TRADITIONS FOR KIDS

Love these ideas! Esp the one about leaving jelly beans as bunny poop in the toilet. 🙂 Or leaving carrots and water out for the easter bunny the night before. So cute!

Post on how I decorated our house is coming soon! Can’t wait to show you!

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End to J Crew as we know it?

I don’t heart J Crew. I have never met anyone who can wear their pants, I dont know who their fit model is and color combo occasionally is too much of a modern day Lilly Pulitzer. However COMMA that is not to say that I don’t wear Lilly Pulitzer and J Crew.

J Crew’s peacoat jackets are amazing, great fit and color selection. I also like their basic but good quality crew neck sweaters, again beautiful colors, I just bought light blue, oatmeal and briiiiight yellow which I thought I could wear with black leggings and gold Van sneakers. J Crew’s Regency jacket is an old favorite of mine, classic with a twist. And I was seriously considering buying these babies in forest green. Pointy toe flats are hard to find and pom-poms are so in for this summer.

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Lot of my clients love J Crew and, for crying out loud, my 7 year old daughter Olivia just announced that she had torn her favorite leggings and asked me if I could get some new ones for her from Crewcuts as she thinks they fit her the best. Before you point fingers at me, she’s been like this since birth. Had to tell her she can’t wear a fur vest to school today. Sigh..

SO it comes as a bit of a surprise that J Crew is letting go of their head of design Jenna Lyons who has been there for 26 years and pretty much designed all these pieces I love. I can’t fault her style, she is beyond gorgeous. Can’t wait to see what she (and J Crew) do next.

How good is this? Amazing.

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Couldn’t agree more.

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Cocktail dresses

Bloomingdales is running a Friends&Family sale which discounts most everything by 25%. When there’s a sale, I always check out dresses. Even if you don’t have an event in mind, it really is a great idea to have some in the closet so that when you need one, you are not running around at the last minute, stressed out and spending more than you wanted on something that you’ll wear only a few times.

Quick note on pantyhose as I get that asked about that a lot. I much much prefer that you get a spray tan instead. If you must get pantyhose, get matte ones, most are shiny and look awful on photos. And if you are wearing an open toe shoe – no panty hose whatsoever. If you are not comfortable with spray tan, get Jergen’s tanning lotion Natural Glow for medium/dark skin (light is way too light) and apply it for a few days so that a bit of color can develop. Any store will have it: CVS, Stop&Shop, Walmart etc.

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On to dresses: for daytime fundraisers and luncheons, try to avoid dark colors, it seems too dressy.

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Betsey Johnson Scuba dress $148. Color is so flattering and if you want to cover up your arms or get cold in a sleeveless, this offers a nice alternative to a jacket or pashmina. Rouching across midsection is a great ideas as well.

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AQUA color block dress $88.

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Laundry by Shelly Segal Off the Shoulder dress $295. Off the shoulder is having a major moment and the color is so pretty.

On to the evening options.

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Jill Jill Stuart strapless crepe gown $398. Beyond gorgeous, love love the neckline.

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Eliza J Embellished neckline dress $158. Great price for something so simple and sexy.

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Tadashi Shoji floral lace dress $268.80 on sale.